Marriage Unfiltered: Embracing Our Roles as Wives with Love and Faith

CoolTravelMom

February 06, 2025

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Embracing Our Roles as Wives with Love and Faith

Let’s get real, ladies—marriage isn’t always the fairytale we imagined when we said, “I do.” We vowed to love, honor, and cherish, through better or worse, and promised to be submissive to our husbands, but let’s be honest: how many of us really understood what those words meant? How many of us took them to heart from day one? If you’re still figuring it out or feel like you’ve fallen short, you’re not alone.

For me, vows are sacred. I’ve always taken them seriously—maybe because I grew up watching my parents live their faith. Weekend novenas with feasts afterward felt routine back then, but now, as a wife and mom, I realize those traditions instilled values that guide me today. Prayers, rosaries, and morning worship songs are now part of my routine, grounding me when life feels overwhelming.

What Does Being Submissive Really Mean?

The word “submissive” often gets misunderstood. It’s not about giving up your voice or individuality; it’s about love, respect, and mutual support. It’s trusting your husband to lead with purpose and service, while also balancing that leadership with your wisdom and perspective.

But let’s be clear—husbands aren’t always right. That’s where we, as wives, step in. Our role isn’t to sit silently but to share our viewpoints respectfully, helping our husbands see the full picture. It’s about mutual submission—a shared mission to guide our family toward what’s right and holy.

Bottled-Up Feelings Don’t Help Anyone

I’ll admit, I used to bottle things up. As a wife, I didn’t want to burden my husband with my thoughts or feelings. I thought staying quiet was my way of being supportive. But one day, he said to me, “If you don’t tell me how you feel, how can I help or understand you?

That hit me. It wasn’t scripted or cliché—it was real. Communication is key in marriage. We can’t assume our husbands know what’s on our minds. They’re not mind readers, and keeping things bottled up only leads to frustration and misunderstanding.

Finding Balance in Marriage

Marriage is a partnership. Yes, the husband is traditionally seen as the head of the household, but that doesn’t mean he holds all the authority. It’s a shared journey where both roles are equally important. Our support as wives helps our husbands make decisions that align with our family’s best interests.

It’s not about sacrificing ourselves or giving up our opinions. It’s about finding balance, building trust, and working together to pave the way for our family’s growth and happiness.

Leaning on Faith and Prayer

When things get tough—and they will—prayer is our greatest tool. Before approaching your husband about a difficult topic, take a moment to pray. Ask God for wisdom, patience, and clarity on both sides. Pray together as a couple and as a family. Invite God into your marriage, and let Him guide you through the challenges.

I’ve learned that it’s okay to not have all the answers. I’m not a perfect wife, and I don’t pretend to be. But I’m committed to learning, growing, and doing what’s right for my husband, our marriage, and our family.

A Role Rooted in Love and Purpose

The Bible reminds us of the importance of women. From the Blessed Virgin Mary to countless others, women play pivotal roles in shaping the lives of those around them. As wives, we are the heart of our families, binding everything together with love, reverence, and faith.

So, to all the wives out there feeling overwhelmed, misunderstood, or bottled up—know that you’re not alone. Speak your truth with love and respect. Trust in your husband’s ability to listen and understand. And most importantly, lift it all up in prayer.

Let’s Grow Together

Marriage is a journey of growth, and none of us have it all figured out. But with faith, communication, and a willingness to learn, we can strengthen our roles as wives and build marriages that honor God’s plan.

I’m on this journey too, and I’d love to hear your thoughts. How do you navigate the challenges of marriage? What keeps you grounded? Let’s support each other and grow together in love and faith.

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